I had a friend call me yesterday, that I haven't talked to in almost 8 years (on purpose).
He was a good friend of 18 years and I decided to cut him loose and leave the area to never talk to him again because he became an alcoholic that couldn't stay out of jail. It all happened in a 1 year time period and I was DONE as we worked together and now I was out of work because of this.....
ANYWAY.....
I get a call from him regarding our mutual friend who is now retired Special Forces. HE now works for my friend building houses.
My friend has known the SF guy since they were too young to remember.
The SF guy has been out less than 1.5 years and since the summer has let himself go. His face is getting all sunk in, dark rings around the eyes, won't shower. My friend told me that he was almost puking over the smell because they are now working inside.
Earlier this summer he was wearing some shorts that were all ripped so much that you could see whats inside and he didn't care, only telling my friend "don't like it stop looking"
My friend is trying to keep a good image to clients and paying customers and the SF guy just gets all agitated and yells that he doesn't care.
Early in his career when he was a Ranger he had enough and got out in the early 2000s only to become a fat, drunk, cigarette smoker with a very crappy job. Seeing this HE decided its not for him and he stopped it all, got back in shape and got back in. Been SF ever since.
The SF guy keeps complaining about PTSD. He has done and seen a lot.
We both think this is depression. My friend claims NO drug use.
What can My friend do?
He wants to stay friends and keep SF guy working with him.
He doesn't want to pry and the SF guy gets all agitated when he (the friend ) tries to clean him up.
We really want to know what is it he is going through? it is depression?
I was trying to explain to my friend that SF guy was the SH1T. He was the bad ass, he still is, but there is no longer the daily adrenaline rush of combat anymore and now its just building houses. That now he is out he is also all broken. My friend says that the only thing that still works on SF guy is his ego. Deaf, bad knees, and back.
Is there a forum for EX SF guys that he can join to share stories so he has a place of like minded, been there done that guys?
I think he may feel alone, though he has 2 kids just under teens is there with his life long best friend, thinking "this is it?"
I am out of the link and live 2 hours away.
I am very worried that I'm going to get THAT phone call.
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