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    older gentem and wives?

    When the sex stops? Sick of masturbation and begging or giving threats? What options are left? Say you're married for 40 years and wifey says no all the time? Whats left? You love her and she loves you supposedly?

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    Suck it up, buttercup. 10+ years in the same place. Options include cheating and paid...care...still cheating. Not options given how that would hurt the woman I love.

    Read a recent study on how jealousy works in men and women. Men fear their women fucking someone else, women fear losing their men to intimacy and connection with someone else.

    So suck it up and give your right hand a workout.
    If we refuse to rule ourselves with reason, then we shall be ruled by our passions.

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    assuming you're "asking for a friend" but I guess the first thing to do would be to find out "why"
    That might be the hardest but you gotta find out what your dealing with
    I say I guess because my second left me over 15 years ago and I've never pursued another so I may not be the best to give advice
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    After menopause, most women dry up and sex becomes painful for them. Lubrication helps a little, but when the "friction" is gone, so is the outcome.

    It's much better just to be "roommates" and go out more often and do things you've been putting off with her. Do things you both like and enjoy it all.

    Just enjoy her company, if nothing else.
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    OK this is weird
    After replying to the thread this showed up while surfing Youtube
    I didn't watch it so don't know what kind of advice it offers just found it strange that it showed up all of a sudden

    No Sex Marriage – Masturbation, Loneliness, Cheating and Shame
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LVgzOyHVcj4
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    Quote Originally Posted by Full Otto View Post
    OK this is weird
    After replying to the thread this showed up while surfing Youtube
    Of course it did...youboob (screwgoole) faceplant, etc...they track you and offer up what they think you want to see. Go search a product and you'll have multiple ads for like products.

    There is no privacy on the interwebs any longer...
    If we refuse to rule ourselves with reason, then we shall be ruled by our passions.

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    Good advice in this thread, this is the best:
    Quote Originally Posted by Full Otto View Post
    I guess the first thing to do would be to find out "why"
    That might be the hardest but you gotta find out what your dealing with
    Julie and I have know each other since we were kids, now we have two kids and celebrated our 15th anniversary last year - but it's still a 'learning experience' for both of us.
    Let's face it: guys are ready to go at the drop of a hat - Hell, before the hat even hits the floor.
    Women need to feel 'desirable' or 'sexy' so subtle things that set the mood are important.

    They are also very attuned to incursions on their territory.
    Another woman may have flirted, set your wife off without you realizing it.
    Happened to me and I didn't even notice when it was happening (but I'm not too bright when it comes to females and all those details).

    Got lots going on right now, will try to get back tomorrow and explain it better.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Full Otto View Post
    OK this is weird
    After replying to the thread this showed up while surfing Youtube
    I didn't watch it so don't know what kind of advice it offers just found it strange that it showed up all of a sudden

    No Sex Marriage – Masturbation, Loneliness, Cheating and Shame
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LVgzOyHVcj4
    That was actually pretty good. Lot's of good stuff in that.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Oswald Bastable View Post
    Suck it up, buttercup. 10+ years in the same place. Options include cheating and paid...care...still cheating. Not options given how that would hurt the woman I love.

    Read a recent study on how jealousy works in men and women. Men fear their women fucking someone else, women fear losing their men to intimacy and connection with someone else.

    So suck it up and give your right hand a workout.
    I struck up what became an emotional affair some years ago with a woman who I dumped and shouldn't have before I met my wife. I'll tell you what, sex with my wife suddenly was a big issue for her, she pleased me night and day and we never had better sex, I found the clit and it was great for about 3 years, once that threat to her disappeared at her insistence of course and the girl also since it was interfering in her marriage , sex became well what I'm complaining about here. So Jealousy sure fits in. Aside from that emotional affair with no physical interaction, I've never touched another woman in 37 years of marriage. So for you guys, I'm not a total scumbag, just a frustrated straight guy(Christian sinner). Thank you all for the responses. Fact is I can barely walk down the driveway to the mailbox and back so the jogging with our friend is just a pipedream and a flirt.

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